I was chatting wid a guy today who was keen to know about me.. ah!! dont laugh.. I did gave him statutory warning, not to wake up the sleeping ME, but ...................................nah!! he didint agree... "aab keeda kiya hai toh jheelo",
so, a seed for all new hot discussion was sowed ...
discussion se pehle ek short intro abt the guy... He the same guy,abt whom i refered in my previous post... the who calls my dad "papaji".. :D (aab dont laugh yar!!, kissi ke emotions ya phir loose motions hain, nikalne do) neways... now the discussion begans...
he pings me on Gtalk.... "Mitali ji, wants to talk wid u s'thing important", i got scared....damm dad se kuch baat toh nahi hue... neways out of courtesy i replied "hainji bolo"... and.... he started...
Oh!! i forgot ... to add another story... last evening he msg'ed me askin me to "reduce weight", till now i was ok but, REDUCE WEIGHT atleast 10 kgs.... ah!! damit ... was gud he wasnt here...
and as a cherry on the cake .... he is asking me to ask my dad to match our kundali's so that we can proceed further.... it alomost killed me .............
infact wen he said i wanna talk wid u ... i was prayin, better he doesnt start abt the weight thing ... else he going get the best of his day.........
but he was lucky he started wid another Hot topic...
so he wrote, "u know ihav always think tht my wife must b career oriented n ambitious"
and i said "OK, tats gr8...", so
he wrote " but u said once upon, (and i was wonderin... Once upon a time wen i was a kid........), tat u dont wanna work after u get married."
i was AH!! for the 1st time i wished... yeh V-sat link down kyun nahi hota ...
but still i said... i shud answer his question... so i wrote... "its not like tat, i do wanna wrk, but am not ambitious.."
than he said, y not ambitious...
and my answer was... (i dont know how many people will agree wid me ... ) "I can either be a gud homemaker or an ambitious professional."
And this sentence, made me re-think am i rite in wat am saying... Cant i be... a sucessful professional, rather Ambitious professional and a nice and sucessful homemaker as well...
After pondering over it for a long time ... i came to an conclusion... NO, I cant... cos once i'll get ambitious,wantingly or unwantingly i'll neglect my family to reach the top...
For NXT generation gals or women, i might be sounding orthodox... but this is wat i feel.. i carry values of a vry middle class family ... so i think in this manner....
Today the competetion is so much and life in metro's and even abroad is running at supersonic speed... tat it becomes so difficult to manage ur kids and ur job at certain point of time ... (am talkin as if, how many kids i have rared and dont knw how many marriage i have made)
I feel if ur ambitious, be single and get wat u want..
because as a women.. almost all the time, u'll have to compromise either for ur hubby or for ur family or may be for ur profession... and am sure any ambitious women will not go for it ...
SO wat i think ... keep workin till u can, get wat ur getting and be happy ... rather than cribbing for wat u might have got. if u wouldnt have had ur 1st baby or may be marriage for that matter...
Its our culture that a gal needs to marry ... and our parents since our birth,keeps on planning abt our marriage (our refers to women community), kindda guy there daughter need, kinda in-laws they she wud b haapy wid ... etc etc... and listening all this we grow up and some where we are mentally prepared for it as well...
so, why not to accept it and live happily ... after all my mom also gave up her studies and profession for me and my bro... and my dad also had to give up some lucurative postings for our studies.. so why cant i do it for my kid...
So i dont knw to what extend am rite ... but its just tat the way i think and feel... after all this a place for my thoughts... is'nt it??
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