Shud I happy or Sad ?

Trust me! Iam really happy today..
one of my very close friend is getting engaged today...

We met at my new office, as a collegeue,
from the very first day we got along so well that we never got to know, when and how close we came together. ( hey! we are not Lesbians plz.)

Since then we shared all our happiness and sorrows... precisely all the ups n downs of our Lives n realtionships...

But the days are approaching when soon we'll part, she'll get busy with her new family n hubby..
and i'll get busy with my job..

I dont know how to express this feeling- a mixed feeling of happiness, as my friends is steppping in a new life and on the other hand she'll go away from me and also from rest of her group.

I know every girl has to go thru this but still one feel sad about it ... but i fail to understand why is it that a gal has to leave her old accquintances, friends and family way back to get adjusted in her new family and life... i dont think a guy wud b doin this wen he gets married...

and i know iam really very unfortunate when it comes to friends -- whom ever i come along with I have to part away from Him or her...

But on serious notes i wish all the very best for her new life, hope her hubby is one of the best in this world... and plz dear ______ let her be in touch with her old pals ...

With tearful eyes i again Wish you all the best. Hope you get all the best things in Life a head ..
Keep Smiling Always...

and hope we be in touch forever n ever...

About J. Krishnamurti...

So Iam back as promised ....
writin about J. Kishnamurti...

I know him thru my Dad,he use to read about him and then more i got to know abt him and his Foundation when my brother went to Varansi to study in KFI's(Krishnamuti Foundation India) Rajghat Besent School...

if i'll start writin about him this whole space will be less and frankly telling i cant make out what to write and what to miss.. What i have done is i have picked up some pieces on his life and about him from various sites...

Firstly, ABOUT J.KRISHNAMURTI

Krishnamurti, Jiddu (born on May 12, 1895, Madanapalle, Andhra Pradesh, India, died on February 18, 1986, Ojai, California) born of middle-class Brahmin parents, was recognized at age fourteen by the Theosophists Annie Besant and C.W. Leadbeater as the coming World Teacher and proclaimed to be the vehicle for the reincarnation of Christ in the West and of Buddha in the East. Mrs. Besant adopted the boy and took him to England, where he was educated and prepared for his coming role.
In 1969 the Krishnamurti Foundation of America (KFA) was created in the Ojai Valley by Krishnamurti and several Trustees. KFA`s mission was, and still is, to protect and disseminate Krishnamurti`s teachings during and after his lifetime. KFA is also responsible for the Oak Grove School, founded by Krishnamurti and the Foundation in 1975. The school was started with the serious intention to create a unique learning environment that would meet the needs of children facing a world in conflict. Krishnamurti took an active interest in the school, from the smallest detail of architecture to the quality of the atmosphere in the classrooms. The school started with three students in 1975 and presently has an enrollment of 175 learners from pre-kindergarten to 12th grade.

Had he not abdicated, the throne of the biggest spiritual guru of modern times would have been his. While other gurus struggle to build their organizations, a worldwide platform, The Order of the Star of the East, was offered to Jiddu Krishnamurti on a platter by Theosophical Society chieftains Annie Besant and H.W. Leadbeater. They had groomed him since childhood to be a ready vehicle for Lord Maitreya to incarnate. The twist in their script came when Krishnamurti had a profound spiritual awakening.
What he later taught stemmed from his personal realization: that truth cannot be reached by any path, religion or sect. To find it, the seeker must strive to ascend to it through his own discovery. It is possible by casting aside past conditioning, and stilling thought that impedes awareness of what is. By 1930, Krishnamurti had dissociated himself from the Order and the Theosophical Society. Ironically, though he had refused messiah hood, he went on to become a world-renowned teacher, giving talks occasioned by profound insights into the deepest questions of humanity. He never quoted earlier masters, nor threw the scriptures at you. His style, his compassion and the psychological nature of his inquiry are reminiscent of the Buddha. A sage-like figure, Krishnamurti died in 1986 in Ojai, USA, at the age of 91. Today, Krishnamurti Foundations continue to disseminate his teachings, and the seven Krishnamurti schools—five in India, set up at his behest—offer his approach to learning and self-discovery. The following excerpt has been taken from Krishnamurti's Commentaries on Living.

The Philosophy of Jiddu Krishnamurti

"I maintain that truth is a pathless land, and you cannot approach it by any path whatsoever, by any religion, by any sect. That is my point of view, and I adhere to that absolutely and unconditionally. Truth, being limitless, unconditioned, unapproachable by any path whatsoever, cannot be organized; nor should any organization be formed to lead or to coerce people along any particular path. If you first understand that, then you will see how impossible it is to organize a belief. A belief is purely an individual matter, and you cannot and must not organize it. If you do, it becomes dead, crystallized; it becomes a creed, a sect, a religion, to be imposed on others "

J.Krishnamurti at the opening day of the annual Star Camp at Ommen, Holland, on the 3rd August 1929, where he dissolved "The Order of the Star in the East" that was founded by his foster mother Annie Besant in 1911 ,then the President of Theosopy Society.

Some Quotes....

One of my friends on ORKUT sent me
theses amazing things ..so wanted to share with you all ...

"When we think of business careers, we assume that great leaders develop and rise to the top in a hierarchical progression. Modern organizational life exists to celebrate success and deny failure - no one ever notes a significant setback or mistake on their resumé. But the fact is, successful careers are not successful continuously. There are ups and downs, twists and turns, detours and digressions, some triggered by professional events and some by personal ones. And even though it may be embarrassing or painful to discuss how they stumbled, an overwhelming majority of leaders privately admit that that's when they learned the most."-

Extract from Adversity: What Makes a Leader the Most, By David L. DotlichDavid L. Dotlich is President of the Mercer Delta Executive Learning Center (formerly CDR International), a consulting firm that specializes in executive development. He is the co-author (James L. Noel, Norman Walker) of Leadership Passages: The Personal and Professional Transitions that Make or Break a Leader (Jossey-Bass, 2004). This extract is from the article which is based on the book.

This is my Personal Favourite...

LIFE IS SERIOUS; one has to give one’s mind and one’s heart to it, completely; one cannot play with it. There are so many problems; there is so much confusion in the world; there is the corruption of society and the various religious and political divisions and contradictions. There is great injustice, sorrow and poverty—not only the poverty outside but the poverty inside. Any serious man, fairly intelligent and not just sentimentally emotional, seeing all this, sees the necessity of change.Change is either a complete psychological revolution in the nature of the whole human being, or it is a mere attempt at the reformation of the social structure. The real crisis in the life of man, you and I, is whether such a complete psychological revolution can be brought about, independent of nationality and of all religious division.

-Extract from the book Beyond Violence by Jiddu Krishnamurti- Jiddu Krishnamurti was undoubtedly one of the greatest philosophical minds of the 20th century. His entire adult life was spent giving passionate discourses on the myriad ways the human mind turns to self-delusion in its never-ending search for psychological fulfillment. Krishnamurti died in 1986.

Definately when ever i'll get time wirite about him... and iam sure u'll love him..
the way i started....

Santhara- Religious Belief or an act to Commit Sucide

From past two or three days iam readin about SANTHARA- a pracitse carried by the people following Jainism...

According to the Jain believes - One can fast till death wishfully to get Moksha...
another word for it -- euthanasia-the act or practice of killing or permitting the death of hopelessly sick or injured individuals (as persons or domestic animals) in a relatively painless way for reasons of mercy.

This can be a hot topic for discussion.. as it generates a mixture of feelings n emotions amongst us.
Infact, there has been a endless debate on the merits n demerits of it both within the realm of medical fraternity and in the public domain.

Talking abt the believes of the Jain Religion-
They say "a person can fast unto death. It justifies this ritual saying that a person, who has fulfilled his purpose of living, he may undertake a vow of Santhara, in which, he abstains from food and water till he departs from this world. "

Though its true that it is against the Law,to take one's own life and public petition has been filed in Rajasthan highcourt for this...
Even in medical ground its not correct to starve till ur dead..

Now, Comes my take on this ..
I think the few incidences which have taken place in past few days, were have nothing to object or raise one's eyebrows for it..
'cos - the ladies who died after observing this Fast, one was 60 years old who was suffering from
incurable Brain tumour,and another one was 93 years old, who gave up her life..

Both the ladies had a valid reasons to appeal for mercy killing ( in other words Santhara).

I can u'stand there grief,as even my grand ma in goin in late 80's i knw how difficult it is for her to spend every day who is bed ridden.. depending on her daughter-in- law and my cousins and esp for a lady who was independent in her early age ...

But it even true that this shud by carried out under guidance of some Authorities, so that people shud not misuse this religious belief for there personal benefits..

There shud be some steps to regulate this act ...
like there shud be an written application filled by the person and a proper medical check-up shud be done and one going for santhara shud have a valid reason...
and one shud make sure this act is not being done under any pressure..

What do you all have to sy abt it...